That is a GINORMOUS centipede in this photo!!!! Look more towards the bottom! Click to enlarge...if you dare!
Their efforts were not in vain!
A hard day at the office! ♥
This IS the life!
A Hawaiian fisherman casting his net
Hanging loose again
Pina Coladas made by Kev!
Seems like this is all we did!
Even in Hawaii!
Based on Dr. Glenn I. Latham's book The Power of Positive Parenting
"Behave well. Good parenting is first a matter of teaching, second a matter of modeling, and never a matter of reacting." Dr. Glenn I. Latham
For the past four PPP posts we have talked about Dr. Latham's very wise counsel. Since we always learn better by DOING, today's post will be two simple assignments that will help to cement the concepts into our brains a little deeper.
The first is to focus on being a more positive person yourself! We already learned that parents are typically five to six times more likely to have negative interactions with their children than they are to have positive interactions. A study conducted in 1984 revealed that whereas in 1930, contact between parents and their children averaged 3-4 hours per day, by 1984 that amount was reduced to 14 ½ minutes, with 12 ½ minutes being spent in negative communication. That is a pretty dramatic change! We as parents often feel the need to "nip trouble in the bud" and get after kids for everything they do wrong. This produces the opposite of what is desired. Since behavior is strengthened by parental attention (whether it is positive or negative) we are much more likely to increase the negative behavior than "nip" it. We just create a negative environment filled with coercion that children want to escape from, or at least get even. A much better way is to learn to be positive and acknowledge behaviors that are appropriate! Let's become more positive!!!
Give positive attention to your family when they are doing things that are right. A soft pat on the back, a hug, a high five, or a "Way to go!" will nearly always assure the behavior will be repeated. Or say something positive about your child to someone else when you know they are listening as well. For one day give yourself a mark for each positive interaction you have with the members of your family. Try to do it for each member of the family, and keep track of the data. Put this in a notebook somewhere or on the fridge. Record any interesting experiences you may have.
Positive Interactions (one mark for each)_____________________________________________
Here is a chuckle for the day........ A four year old came screaming out of the bathroom to tell his mom he'd dropped his toothbrush in the toilet. So she fished it out and threw it in the garbage. Her son stood there thinking for a moment, then ran to the bathroom and came out with her toothbrush. He held it up and said with a charming little smile, "We better throw this one out too then, 'cause it fell in the toilet a few days ago."
Good luck, and as Dr. Latham used to say: